by

Sun Yee

&

Lee Fong

- TABLE OF CONTENTS -

PART 1: THE BATTLE PLAN

- CHAPTER 1 -

Secret Way of the Warrior

To defeat the enemy psychologically
is superior to defeating the enemy militarily.

Chapter 1 explores the Taoist concept that information and planning makes conflict unnecessary, or as Sun Tzu says, "it's best to win without fighting." We also explain the importance of psychology to the divorce process, exploring the holistic approach to preparing mind and body for conflict. We recommend appointing a Sage Advisor (psychotherapist) to help build psychological fortifications and develop offensive strategies for psychological warfare. The efficacy of using psychotropic mediation such as Prozac, is also discussed as part of the mind-body holistic approach. Treat Mind and Body, Build Psychological Fortifications, Appoint a Sage Advisor, Listen to Prozac, Summary. - CHAPTER 2 - Sleeping with the Enemy All War is Based on Deception. We emphasize the importance of setting reasonable, morally justifiable objectives and using espionage to achieve these goals. The ideal reader will arm herself with complete financial information before declaring war, i.e., filing for divorce. Establish Objectives, Maintain the Status Quo, Trace Hidden Assets and Income, Uncover Adultery, Guerilla Warfare on the Internet, Telephonic Intrigue, Summary.   - CHAPTER 3 - Appoint Your Sage General Military leadership is a matter of wisdom, sincerity, humanity, courage, and discipline. Chapter 3 draws from the military analogy between sovereign ruler, or commander-in-chief (the reader) and the general of the army (divorce lawyer). Sun Tzu explains the best and worst qualities in generals, and we apply these qualities to divorce lawyers. The reader is guided through the process of selecting that rare breed of divorce lawyer (the Sage General), and learns how to get the most out of her lawyer. Quest for the Sage General, Failed Generals, Motivate Your Sage General, Sabatoge Enemy Generals, Establish a Legal "Slush" Fund, Right-brain Wisdom, Summary. - CHAPTER 4 - Moles, Spies and Interlopers An army without secret agents is like a person without eyes or ears. Chapter 4 explains how to use people for gathering intelligence and disrupting enemy plans and alliances. Whether using unwitting informants or employing loyal spies, the information supplements the documentary evidence gathered in Chapter 2. Utilize Moles, Plant Crafty Interlopers, Summary. PART II: THE SIEGE - CHAPTER 5 - The Siege Plan for what is difficult while it is still easy and attack when they are unprepared. Chapter 5 explains how planning eliminates the unpredictable outcome of divorce trials. By planning secretly for every contingency, including preparation of liens, attachments, garnishments, subpoenas, etc., readers achieve better results, minimize risk, and reduce conflict. We show how to obtain emergency court orders, shut down enemy lines of credit, and finance the attack with enemy resources. The pitfalls of anger and greed which unnecessarily prolong warfare are also discussed. Defensive First-Strike Attack, Back to Court -- Round Two, Assessments and Flexibility, Waging Peace, Trial by War God, Summary. PART III: THE AFTERMATH - CHAPTER 6 - Negotiating a Peace Treaty and Protecting the Spoils There is no greater misfortune than not knowing what is enough. Chapter 6 explains how "anger and greed are the primary reasons for defeat." These emotions, which are the worst impediments to settlement negotiations, are explored in an effort to make settlement more likely. Readers are urged to be gracious in victory. We review traps for the unwary in standard form settlement agreements and give practical advice. Be Gracious in Victory, Closure: Stopping When It's Over, Protecting the Spoils, Summary. PART IV: APPENDICES - APPENDIX A - Document Check List This exhaustive list of documents is a sine qua non to thorough financial investigation, and should be used in conjunction with Chapter 2, "Sleeping with the Enemy." - APPENDIX B - Tao of Divorce: A-Z (Divorce Law Dictionary) The first and only annotated divorce law dictionary that provides easy-to-understand definitions, incisive commentary, and practical advice. Irreverent at times, this is a dictionary with an attitude lampooning the pompous divorce bar and other self-important predatory types the reader may encounter. - APPENDIX C - The Peace Treaty (Settlement Agreement) The peace treaty is your marital settlement agreement. It should be a comprehensive document regulating your post-divorce life. - APPENDIX D - Divorce Resources Here you will find national resources, including professionals, addresses and phone numbers of various organizations, associations, support groups, and state agencies. PART V: BIBLIOGRAPHY Bibliography Contains over 40 books and publications. | Preface | >>> The Tao of Divorce: A Woman's Tactical Guide to Winning (based on Sun Tzu's the Art of War) © 1996-2003, Sun Yee all rights reserved